I spoke to an old therapist friend today, and finally understood why everyone’s so exhausted after the video calls. It’s the plausible deniability of each other’s absence. Our minds tricked into the idea of being together when our bodies feel we’re not. Dissonance is exhausting.
— Gianpiero Petriglieri (@gpetriglieri) April 3, 2020
It’s easier being in each other’s presence, or in each other’s absence, than in the constant presence of each other’s absence.
— Gianpiero Petriglieri (@gpetriglieri) April 3, 2020
Our bodies process so much context, so much information, in encounters, that meeting on video is being a weird kind of blindfolded. We sense too little and can’t imagine enough. That single deprivation requires a lot of conscious effort.
— Gianpiero Petriglieri (@gpetriglieri) April 4, 2020
I am finding Zoom easier if I don’t make eye contact. Then I can mimick a distant presence, which feels more real. If I want intimacy, and we’re apart, I’ll phone. And If I want to say thinking of you, I’ll write.
— Gianpiero Petriglieri (@gpetriglieri) April 4, 2020
