Proud Of Someone Else

Image CC0 Matthew Wheeler
Image CC0 Matthew Wheeler

My sister-in-law recently sent out a group email with a link to article entitled 4 Things Every Kids Needs to Hear from their Father. I agree with the general gist of the article, I was annoyed by something the author, Mike Berry, wrote about pride. He thinks that kids needs to hear the words, “I’m proud of you!”.

While I agree that kids need to hair words of praise from their parent, I take issue with the authors use of the word proud to convey his sentiment.

Pride is:

  • a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people
  • a feeling that you are more important or better than other people (this is the negative side)
  • a feeling of happiness that you get when you do something good, difficult, etc.

Notice is does not say the feeling you get when someone else does something good or difficult. I think the phrase the author was looking for is “I take joy in your accomplishments/actions”. He even said himself with “There’s nothing more powerful that an attaboy or an attagirl.” Can proud really be used to describe the feeling one gets from someone else accomplishment

Instead of “I’m proud of you”, how about, “What you have accomplished is amazing.” or “I take great joy in your accomplishment.”

I think “I believe in you” and “I’m in your corner!” are the same thing. If you aren’t in someone’s corner, then you aren’t showing your belief in what they are up to.

Yes, kids may need to hear these things from us but even more so, they need to feel our love in our daily actions.

Kingston Branch Loop Trail

River, Trail, Kingston

Image by :Khürt L. Williams. NIKON D5100 (35mm, f/5.6, 2 sec, ISO100)

After my haircut this morning, and despite my severe allergies, I drove just over the Princeton Township border to a spot along the Delaware and Raritan Canal. I had never been here before but I drive past it often whether on my way to work or out to Route 1. Sometimes I see cars parked here and sometimes people carrying canoes.

I grabbed my Nikon, tripod and my Hoya ND400 neutral density filter and followed the beaten path to the water. It was peaceful. The air was clean and crisp. I enjoyed the silence while it lasted. Through the trees I could hear the chatter of people talking while walking or bicycling along on the other side of the canal.

I could see that a path was carved along the canal by other humans out exploring like I was. I walked a few hundred yards, setup my tripod at the very edge of the water and took a few images.

I tried using the TriggerTrap software with the Hoya ND400 to do some long exposure HDR photography but I could not get the software to work correct. The TriggerTrap capture all the images at the same shutter speed. I used the auto-bracketing mode on my camera instead.

I walked down a few more yards and spent some more time watching the turtles basking on logs in the early morning sun.