Ritual

Sometimes the steps required to do something become part of the experience; making tea or playing a record on your turntable instead of on your iPhone. The steps add to the satisfaction, make the event more of a personal experience than just doing. This can make a simple task personally therapeutic or cathartic — often allowing a simple task to remedy the stresses of the day.
via Doing things the hard way — The Northwind

My family often chides me — calling me a snob — for the way I obsess over how I make my coffee. I’ve never had a good way to explain the feeling I get from the four or five minutes I spend making coffee. Grinding the beans. Measuring and boiling the water in my kettle. Waiting for just the right temperature to pour the water and brew the coffee.

Yes, it takes more time than popping a pod into a machine. But the taste of the coffee is much better and I get to enjoy the few minutes of “in the moment” nothingness. It’s worth it.

Something missing as a possibility

The “glass-half-empty” folks lean toward the idea that something’s wrong, something’s not there, something’s missing-as in problematic. The “half-full” folks are attending to what’s actually in the glass-as in what could be brought to the party-as in “missing as a possibility.”Angie Mattingly

Sometimes it’s hard to see the possibilities before me. There is so much baggage and angst that my mind is clouded and I miss opportunity. I could instead stand in the moment and let the possibilities appear. Sometimes what I think I need may not appear but something else, another path, appears. One has to be in the mind frame to see it.

Openings for action

When setbacks, missteps, and failures occur, instead of getting stuck in a downward spiral (which can sometimes be the worst kind of stuck), we course-correct, discover, and create magic along the way—improvisational flexibility becomes an essential art. Failures become a platform, a ladder, a means to fulfill the game we’ve taken on, and what it gives birth to, and what it attracts, what we can make happen, has the power to reshape the course of events.

Barry Grieder, Landmark Forum leader via Landmark Insights: Games worth playing and openings for action | Landmark Insights

I’m struggling with this right now. I feel that I’m not making progress toward my goals. Perhaps I could let go of trying to control the outcomes and embrace the journey. I could then be more relaxed and then be able to see what course corrections are possible to steer back toward the goal.