Language and Communication, Cameras, Street Photography, and Envy

The desire to affirm that women are equal has made some scholars reluctant to show they are different, because differences can be used to justify unequal treatment and opportunity. Much as I understand and am in sympathy with those who wish there were no differences between women and men—only reparable social injustice—my research, others’ research, and my own and others’ experience tell me it simply isn’t so. There are gender differences in ways of speaking, and we need to identify and understand them. Without such understanding, we are doomed to blame others or ourselves—or the relationship)—for the otherwise mystifying and damaging effects of our contrasting conversational styles.

Excerpt from a book I am currently reading in iBooks Store. The book, “You Just Don't Understand.”, is by Deborah Tannen.

Remember that the camera itself is only half of what makes a camera good. How dedicated you are, how hard you work, and how many good and great pictures you get out of it are the other half. How much you use it is just as important as whatever it is.What makes a camera good

As humans we are naturally wired to focus on important things and filter out all the rest. Although such an approach has served us well over the ages, in creative seeing it’s a major obstacle. In addition, our education system and our daily routine push us to see and react in a certain way. Have you noticed when walking around the city how your brain filters out the noise and visuals? We usually stroll around town without challenging what we see or how we see it. In order to find “something interesting in an ordinary place,” you need to break your seeing patterns and go for something new, uncomfortable and different.A personal rant about street photography

Avoid letting yourself fall into the all-too-common kinds of comparative thinking that breed envy, self-doubt and other kinds of unproductive energy. Nip that shiz in the bud if you do feel yourself going down that road. Snuff it out before it take take root and steal your energy – and instead, use the power of comparative thinking to your advantage– turn it into positive energy and critical thinking about craft– that will fuel your progression as a creative professional. Compare your work to that of the best, and do it with unflinching honesty. Rinse and repeat.Chase Jarvis

Connoisseur?

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Connoisseur by xkcd

I rarely drink wine and when I do, I care not for whence it came. However, when it comes to beer and coffee I am particular. I care about the freshness of the coffee beans. I care about the temperature of the water for the pour. I care which method was used to make the coffee and about the proper coffee to water ratio. I care how long the coffee was brewed. I make coffee for myself each morning and I care about these things. Some people think this makes me a coffee connoisseur. Some would say a snob. The two words do not mean the same thing.

con·nois·seur :noun
a person who knows a lot about something (such as art, wine, food, etc.)

I am far from an expert in the art of brewing coffee but I would argue that I know more about it than the average person. I spend a lot of time reading about coffee beans and coffee brewing. But apparently offering one's opinion on the quality of the espresso drink at a popular restaurant makes me a snob.

snob :noun
one who has an offensive air of superiority in matters of knowledge or taste

Perhaps it was my attitude about what we were drinking that was the issue. I did not mean to seem superior but perhaps my tone and facial expressions said something that my words did not. The latte wasn't terrible. In my opinion, it wasn't made with the similar amount of care as the meal. It was disappointing. It reminded me of something I could get at a Starbucks. And I don't like Starbucks coffee.

Maybe the lesson learned is, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it".