Taking care of our children and our parents is why we are here; it’s our mission.

Er. No. That's not my mission. That may be your mission — not mine. What you write, isn't even psychologically healthy.

You see, my mother doesn't want to live in a condo/apartment. She wants to live in a house which she can't afford to keep up. My wife and mother do not get along, so moving in with us would likely trigger my wife's depression.

We have two kids in college, one of which refuses to get a summer job to help pay for his incidental expenses. He also keeps dropping classes, which means he may take longer to graduate so he can start repaying his loans. I co-signed those loans. If he defaults, that's on me.

My wife's parents refused to move in with her brother, who has a house with enough space for them. We pay for their apartment and their groceries and incidental medical expenses.

My wife and I have chronic progressive illnesses which will require significant care when we can no longer work. I have type 1 diabetes and thyroid eye disease. My wife has fibromyalgia.

So that statement feels too much like, "Your personal needs and wants are irrelevant. Only the needs and wants of others are important".